It's not that I liked or agreed with that classy post on the genrefinders. It's just that some of what I've seen in comments in discussions around the topic ... bug me.
Disliking a character is not inherently misogyny.
Really. No, really.
I can think of, off the top of my head, three separate female characters I've recently disliked in ... 2.5 fandoms? (It gets a little weird.) But you know what that's about?
It's about I dislike the character.
Maybe I've looked at something a character has done and found it indefensible. Maybe the character has taken several such actions. Maybe I question the character's personal or ethical judgment. Maybe I find the character's canon relationship skeevy — not because "she breaks up my OTP, OMG, eleventy!" (I don't even have OTPs) but because the shown relationship is dysfunctional in subtle ways that I find misogynist; or the relationship requires the character to violate her existing relationship commitment for wholly inadequate reasons; or the relationship is the sudden and epic true love of a character who was always previously compelling without all the Twue Wuv. Maybe I resent being told by each plot that the character is the most specialest perfect flawless humanly-flawed supreme ideal everything, and knowing that's not just my perception because the showrunner has stated it.
Maybe the character can even change and become one I both like and respect. One of those three did.
Maybe the character doesn't need to be reduced to "you hate her because you're secretly misogynist!" Seriously, the only reason I don't like her has to be related to her sex? That reductionist viewpoint seems pretty misogynist to me. Maybe I would in fact view these characters differently if they were male, but I've tried to consider that carefully, and I'm not at all convinced I would.
Maybe I'll bend over backwards trying to treat the character fairly in my fandom participation, when I certainly don't treat all characters I dislike that way. When does that come back around to being its own form of misogyny?
Anyway. Bleh. I don't know. As I said, not formed, not well-constructed. And holy crap am I ever not looking to get into a "debate" about it, at all and certainly not here (though thoughtful and respectful commentary is always welcome). I just wanted to feel I'd said it, even just in my own journal under a cut, so I can quit thinking every five minutes that I need to speak up.